Wednesday, February 20, 2008

Advice from a Veteran of the Trenches, part 2

This part of the interview I want printed, enlarged and framed so that I won't forget, so that my mothering will be better. It was my favorite moment of our conversation and so profound for me.

On Loving Your Job
Me: If you could give a piece of advice to young mothers, looking back with all the things you have learned, what would be your advice?

Mom: Well, I really would advise young women to, as hard as it is every day, to meet the challenge, and cherish each day because it goes so fast. You know, when you've got a houseful of kids and you hit the floor running every morning, and granted you're tired a lot of the time, but suddenly it's over and they're gone. Therefore it's, it's...what I was going to say is that when you have them around you all of the time you're thinking I'm always going to feel this way, I'm always going to be tired, I'm always going to be behind and suddenly they're gone, and you've got all this time and you wish you could go back, for just a day, and enjoy it.

Alright, if you could go back--let's say you could go back in a time machine and spend one day, what would you do?

I think I'd take my children on a picnic, and we'd go down near the river where I grew up and we'd...throw rocks in the water, roast marshmellows...just enjoy each other...We spent a lot of time outdoors. We grew a garden and took care of a lawn and all that, but sometimes I think we get busy and we forget to stop and play with our kids. I don't know that the kids noticed it that much because where we lived at the time I had all my children, we had neighbors that also had large families and they played out of doors every day all day long. So they probably didn't miss--not that I'm aware of--having their mom stop and play with them....but I would like to have spent more time with them...just playing.

10 comments:

Abby said...

Hi Laurel. Im Abby. I used to be in your ward bf we moved north a few years ago. I just have to tell you thank you for posting this particular section. Brings tears to my eyes and reminds me what REALLY is important! I teach the Laurals at church and use your words from time to time. Thanks for the inspiration!

Amanda said...

Truer words could not be said. It always seems like something is more important than just stopping and enjoying the moment, enjoying them. That is so backwards. I try to remind myself that I'm not staying home for the house, I'm staying home for the kids. I always think "someday" I'll have time when this is done and that is complete and the other thing is over with, but your mom is right - they will be grown & gone before I know it! :(

Kyle said...

Thanks for the reminder...I needed that today!
Kyle

Melissa said...

I wish I had a pause button.

Madame Queen said...

Whenever I actually stop the craziness and sit down and play with my kids I always think "I should do this more."

thanks for sharing these words with us.

Rochelleht said...

Ugh, I'm the worst for stopping and playing. I do stuff with them, like homework or reading to them, but I really don't like to play. This is a good reminder, cause don't you remember being so excited when your mom would stop and play with you? I'm sure my kids feel the same way I did.

Ashley said...

Hey it's Ashley Albright, I love reading your blog! I especially love the gross hair story. I think you were so right to arm her with that verbal comeback, now days if you don't stand your ground people will walk all over you. That was pretty funny though, especially since her hair is beautiful. Kids are so mean.

Megan B said...

Good advice Mom!!! Thanks for the much needed today reminder. Thanks for posting Laurel.

Elisa said...

I know that you have NO idea who I am, but thank you for posting that... I needed that today. Sometimes being a Mom, and right in the thick of it is tiring and downright discouraging at times... thanks for reminding me to savor every moment!

"The Queen in Residence" said...

What a great idea to get advice from a true "expert" a woman that has survived rearing children. I am going to interview my parents - you never know what snipets of wisdon will come from it. Thanks for letting us learn from yours.